A New Perspective…

“Friendly Reminder that doing your best, does not mean working yourself to the point of burning out or breaking down”

       -positivemindpositivelife

2018 for me stands for self care. For much too long I have been putting my well being aside to prove something. And today, right now, as I sit here, I’m trying to figure out what I was trying to prove.  There is nobody left in my life that I can remember trying to change their perseption of me.  They have all been removed from my life, Thank Heavens. I will never be able to change what they think of me. I can only be the best me I can be, and do my best. When I started to learn that, thats when they started to exit out of my life.

I’m currently reading “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.” Children cover your ears. But it’s so true. I told my mother I was reading this book and she looked up at me and said isn’t this what I have been trying to tell you for ages now? You care to much!

Hate to say it, but mothers are always right. I care too much and I used to worry about things before it actually took place. It wore me down and wore me out. It started to effect my health. Until the point that I had a major health crisis. Recovering from that taught me alot about people, myself and expectations. I became acutely aware that I had to start making some pretty important changes if I was going to survive this life.

The premise of the book is to see and recognize the bad stuff that takes place in life, and find acceptance and the lesson you were ment to learn. But don’t take things on to hard,  that’s not what life is about. I’d like to add; taking life in stride, is living your best life.

Its funny because in December when I was thinking about the new year upon us and what I really want in the new year, information started flooding at me about self love and self interest. Now I’m not talking about selfishness. But a great way to put it is if you have a banks account, and you withdraw more often then you deposit or hell you bearly deposit at all. Eventually you have nothing to withdraw anymore.

Same with life, if you are constantly the yes person. Doing everything, and the things others won’t do eventually you run out of steam. And you can not serve or give any more. But instead of allowing myself to run out of steam. My focus is to refuel me, think of me. Not necessarily first but pencil me in My life,and my schedule too.

It’s  time to treat yourself better.

“Start making your own joy a priority. – Your needs matter. If you don’t value yourself, your sabotaging yourself. Remember,  it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.”

Excerpt form Mark and Angel emails.

I dubbed this month Icanandiwilluary. I can and I will protect my mental health. I can and I will standup for myself. I can and I will start being myself genuinely and unapologetically.

That is my mantra. I realized that I need to focus on putting my best face forward only by fixing myself from the inside out. Getting to a place where I can help myself. Letting myself shine from with in. That takes alot of self focus, to overcome my otherwise self depreciating ways. 

 I have mostly been working on letting stuff go. Leaving the thing I can not control be. Not agonizing over them. Stop being so wound up… not taking it all so personally. But being expectant of only great things. I am working on my mindset and my fears. And I learned that I am capable of anything.
As I continue on this journey, be on the look out for more blogs on how I have overcome my fears. Coming soon.